Today, I was making out greeting cards and finding it very strange that I was sending sympathy cards to my grandchildren because they just lost their Great Grandmother suddenly last week. The other cards I was making out were to our good friend Robert who is retiring from the Navy on Friday after over 30 years of service to our nation. It might seem weird to some people that kids should be sent sympathy cards, but I firmly believe in acknowledging their grief and helping them through the healing process in any way I can. I guess it all seemed strange to me that the 6 and 7 year olds are getting sent sympathy cards and our friend is getting a retirement card. Life stages know no age I guess.
On Monday we signed our refinance paperwork and now we are just waiting for everything to get recorded, stamped, spindled and
mutilated dispersed. We squeaked in and got a 5.5% rate, and for once
we might have done something right. The title company lady said that the rates had gone back up again. Whew! We are patiently waiting for all to be final and our cash out to get in the bank so we can go ahead with paying off bills and getting work done on house projects. It's going to be a busy Home Improvement 101 summer.
It's funny how things work out...We were invited to our friend's retirement ceremony, but at the time we chose to not attend and ended up buying a new TV instead. Sounds low, I know, but we plan on visiting our friend and his wife this summer after he is retired and we can really enjoy a few days together. If we had gone to the ceremony then we might not have refi'd and missed a lower interest rate, along with being able to pay off bills so my husband can retire this year. Our son and his family will be at the ceremony (I hope!) to 'represent' us, and we won't get to tour the ship and see another long time family friend, but I guess all things work out the way they should. I liken it to not "pushing the river".
My husband's uncle is in the early/middle stages of Alzheimer's and even though we live in WA state and he in Illinois, he has caused us some worry in the last month or so. He 'left' his wife and filed for divorce, tried to take money out of his savings in cash but the bank talked him into putting it in an account in his name. His wife does not have power of attorney so she is now having to figure out how to deal with all of this uncertainty. This affects us because this uncle ended up at my father-in-law's house and stayed there until they told him to go home and work things out with his wife. He did, but he had arrived with a pistol in his belongings and he asked his brother to hold on to it for him. When he went home the gun stayed with my father-in-law. Thank goodness. Not everyone in the family has a clear understanding of Alzheimer's symptoms (we do, but only because we sought out the knowledge) and it is hard to convince them that what John tells them is delusions and not real truths. John's wife called tonight to let us know how things are going with him home again, and we are powerless to help out with us being so far away. We just hope he doesn't get violent with her. Oh, and I forgot to mention, the wife has a brain tumor. They are both in their 70's.
My friend in Missouri, whom I have known for 36 years, called this week and she was telling me what a hard time she is having with her anxiety. As she talked to me about feeling so trapped in the house (she can't drive because she had radiation for brain cancer years ago) and since I have Season Affective Disorder, it made me wonder if she might have the same problem. She lives near St. Louis and they have had so much snow that she never sees the sun for much of the time. I can't tell the whole story here, but I suggested she look into getting a light box and she put her husband on the phone so I could explain what it was. Did I mention I am not a physician? I hope she can get some help, but once again, I can't do anything from here.
I don't take these things on voluntarily, they just happen. People feel safe telling me stuff. Why, I don't know cuz I don't have all the answers. Heck, if I did I would solve some of my own problems! I hope you are having a better week than I am.